Couple Time for Parents:-Part 3: Ways to Reconnect
Date Nights are great!
Outside of date nights, how do you keep that connection going? Day-to-Day life gets in the way with work, chores, kids and their activities, and soon you’re only communication is about logistical stuff like who’s picking up whom from practice and how the garage door needs painting.
The things you may have done in the past as a couple without kids just kind of fades away into the daily routine. It’s not that you’re not in love anymore. It’s just that it just becomes hard to express that love after long work days, commutes, practices, meetings, homework, dinner and bedtime routines.
Here are a few ways to reconnect outside of date nights:
- Keep a journal. Dedicate a blank journal for the two of you to write back and forth to each other. It doesn’t have to be long, but just a few simple words like, “I appreciate you doing the dishes last night. That really helped me out.”, can really go a long way in reconnecting. Sometimes we don’t have time to say the things that matter most. Take turns writing notes back and forth to each other.
- Love notes. Mini sticky notes in a lunchbox or on the mirror, maybe in your partner’s car with a sweet sentiment is always nice to give and receive.
- Sexting. Yep, it’s not just for teenagers. I’ll just leave it at that. 😉
- Sunday recap. Have a little meeting of sorts where you can review the events of the previous week and ask each other if there was anything you may have missed. Is there something you need to apologize for? Do it face- to-face. Sometimes texts and emails don’t relay the proper tone and message. Things can be misinterpreted and sometimes sting, even when they aren’t meant that way.
- Check out Datebox. It’s a pretty neat subscription box for ideas dates with your partner, a Playlist and how to make it happen.
- Have a quickie. Distract the kids, sneak away for a couple of minutes and reconnect.
- Make your mate a priority. Hug each other. Kiss each other. Be thankful, be respectful, and try to be patient and kind.
Thanks for reading! If you’ve gotten any value from this, please feel free to share! Also, if you have any ideas on how to reconnect with your partner or spouse, leave them in the comments. I’d love to hear from you!